When Medical Procedures are Ordered
If a test or procedure is ordered and it makes sense, it is easy to go along with. If it doesn’t make sense, then it is difficult to allow. Maybe you need to do a little research and take some time before deciding, or get a second opinion if you still have doubts.
Bodily harm is a big fear for young children. No matter what the age, it is always a good idea to explain and reassure in advance. Above all, answer questions honestly. Each child will have his/her own concerns and questions. Always acknowledge their fear and perceptions, this will help them cope, provide security, and builds trust for the future.
Prepare before a test or procedure. Take along something they are comfortable with or attached to it, perhaps a stuffed animal, favorite blanket, or an electronic game. If possible, send along this ‘friend’ for the duration of testing. Sometimes the biggest issue for a child is separation, ask if you can sit in. If only one person is allowed to stay, decide this in advance so the child knows ahead of time and take along something to occupy yourself, it will make waiting more relaxing. If your child is not allowed to eat or drink before the test, bring along a snack or food to follow.
Calm parents help to reassure a child. This may be especially difficult if you see your child cry or perceive discomfort. If pain is involved, have it addressed! It will make everyone a whole lot happier! If possible, use humor; laughter is always great medicine.
Procedures, especially invasive ones can be especially scary. This is not “normal” kid stuff and children are brave even when they cry. To acknowledge brave cooperation, reward them afterward with a special treat, surprise, or do something special together. Each situation is different, but a reward may provide incentive for cooperation.
Sometimes procedures/testing is more difficult on the parent then the child. Reward your own perseverance. Raising a “special child” is a reward in itself, but don’t forget to take care of yourself!
